Getting Ready for Bed Parameters

Getting Ready For Bed At Night

Bedtime is very important.  You need 10 hours of sleep.  Mom and Dad need at least 8 hours of sleep. And Mommy and Daddy need adult time after 9:00.  If bedtime takes a lot longer than it should, then everyone may be too tired and cranky to do other fun things the next day or week. So use this time wisely!

Extra preparation items (make lunch) and homework should be done by 8pm. Week nights Weekend
Sun Mon Tues Wed Thurs Fri Sat
1.Go up by 8pm on week nights or before early adventures (may be later on weekends)

  • Take medicine as needed
  • Get water and go upstairs (3 to 5 minutes)
  • Bathroom
  • Brush and floss teeth (3 to 5 minutes)
  • Brush hair / put up (2 minutes)
  • Pajamas put on (2 minutes)
  • Play only if time allows (Can you do everything in 10 minutes? Activity for 15-20 minutes)
             
2.Bed by 8:30 pm. No playing.  Low voices.

  • Decide how to go to bed (up to 20 minutes, if on time)
  • Read to us or Mom /Dad reads to you (a story)
  • For school must read 30 minutes each day
  • CD (Angry Octopus or other body relaxation)
  • Tell a story to each other
  • Deep breaths
  • Closing your eyes and being quiet
  • Side by side reading
  • Light, low talking (grateful, thankful, counting, etc…)
  • Sound machine
             
3.Extra preparation  (about 5-15 + minutes each)

  • On *bath or shower* nights start at least 20 minutes earlier
  • Make lunch for tomorrow
  • Plan, and prepare for next day activity
  • Choose outfit for tomorrow
  • Put away clean laundry
  • Straighten room a little or a lot, as needed

 

             

Goals:

  1. Know your own bedtime and start going to bed at that time without being asked.
  2. Do things quickly. No fussing, fighting or delaying.
  3. Going to sleep should take less than one hour
  4. Getting ready for bed FASTER and going to sleep early or on time can earn STAY UP time
  5. Try putting yourself to sleep at least one to two times a week (2X)

Before you sleep, try to think of ONE THING you are THANKFUL or
GRATEFUL for in your life (and WHY, if you can)!
“I am thankful for…..? because…….?

  • “I am thankful for making a new friend today BECAUSE it made the park more fun!
  • “I am grateful for playing on the playground BECAUSE playing always makes me happy!”
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Schools Trauma Informed / Sensitive

http://www.serenitylinkscoaching.com/at-a-glance/

www.attachment.org/wp-content/uploads/2014/01/Letter-to-Teachers.pdf?fref=gc

Resources

https://wmich.edu/sites/default/files/attachments/u57/2013/child-trauma-toolkit.pdf

18 page comprehensive brochure for teachers
https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B4sVlacTvOtFRjhIY0JCcTA0Vzg/view

https://www.teachermagazine.com.au/articles/trauma-informed-practice-in-action

http://www.acesconnection.com/blog/dr-ross-greene-educated-and-kids-who-have-been-traumatized

http://theconversation.com/one-theory-all-teachers-with-disruptive-children-should-know-about-43561

https://www.theatlantic.com/education/archive/2015/12/when-grit-isnt-enough/418269/

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/kathy-lynn-harris/dear-mom-of-an-adopted-child_b_7267898.html

https://vimeo.com/85335854

Solutions / Ideas / Learning Time Management

https://ww2.kqed.org/mindshift/2015/07/10/how-writing-down-specific-goals-can-empower-struggling-students/

https://www.handinhandparenting.org/2017/03/games-to-play-with-upset-child/

 

Back to School

  1. Immunizations and copy to school
  2. Dentist
  3. Optometrist (Glasses this year?)
  4. Pick up schedule (changes?)
  5. Check in with school officials re: afterschool tutoring
  6. Make an afterschool plan
  7. Uniforms
  8. Buy PE clothes
  9. Hair cut
  10. Go through all ‘back to school’ supplies
  11. Organize old materials and store
  12. Buy bare essentials until further notice ( This year just: pencil case, binder, notebook(s), small stapler, mechanical pencils
  13. Backpack
  14. Print lunch calendar
  15. Lunch bag ? (Go grocery shopping)
  16. Lunch account?
  17. Manage BTS anxiety for both of us

 

Attachment

http://iamarockstar.me/imagine-being-loved-anyway/

“When you learn about the psychology of attachment you learn that trust is built from the survivability of the parent. Parents create attachment because they just keep showing up and trying to make things a little better for the infant—they feed it, change it, rock it and help it get to sleep. They make mistakes and they repair them. They are there. Over and over endlessly, they are there. And this endless thereness. This endless thereness with repair after repair—this is what creates basic trust.”

Holding Space – Safe Container

When you hold space for someone, you bring your entire presence to them. You walk along with them without judgment, sharing their journey to an unknown destination. Yet you’re completely willing to end up wherever they need to go. You give your heart, let go of control, and offer unconditional support. https://www.huffingtonpost.com/lynn-hauka/the-sweetness-of-holding-_b_9558266.html

Deep Listening

Compassionate Listening

http://relational-integrative-psychotherapy.uk/chapters/holding-containing-and-boundarying/