This is meant to be a categorized memory library for myself, possibly others, as I navigate the process of building a connected family before and after the fost / adopt of an older child from a hard place. If my path is revealed, perhaps the scenery of the journey can be improved for others. Perhaps, someone will find a resource faster and ease their struggle somewhere in this steep learning process.
About Me 3/13/2018
You may think I’ve got this — but please note: I’m working very hard because I’m still making tons of mistakes. This is hard stuff for me to put into practice.
I’ve been through many hours of trauma training starting with couples adoption counseling (2009), leading to the Foster parent trainings (Pathways 1 – 2011), and becoming a Foster to Adopt Mom (2013). Experiencing life as a frontline mom with a traumatized child, I continued to the more specific trauma training (Pathways 2 – 2015 or 2016?), and repeated some classes again with my husband (2017). In addition, I’ve taken trainings via attending the California Adoption Conference for 3 years, Camp Always 2016, and other Caregiver and Social Worker trainings about trauma and working with youth (whatever I could find). I’ve also read a lot of background information, articles and books from experts like Peter Levine and Bessel Van Der Kolk.
My understanding of my daughter’s trauma and continually trying to grow my skills to meet her needs has been my number one priority for the last 4 and a half years. We have both changed a lot since them. But she is not stopping and neither am I.
I’ve also done 3 different parenting class series (Love & Logic, Wisdom Pathway, & Hand in Hand), and completed more than 250-300 hours of Yoga Teacher trainings (2016-2018), now including the Art of Yoga Program (2018), a trauma-focused program for incarcerated youth. Additionally, on the way to and from my work (commuting about 1-2 hours a day) I have been obsessively listening to Therapy and Healing Podcasts for at least the last 2 years.
Although I’m not currently teaching yoga today, I’m basically working my way to understand and connect yoga as a trauma healing modality for myself, other caregivers, my daughter and other youth, as well as the general public. I’m on a path to teaching and something else. I just don’t know what it is yet. It may involve trauma education and care advocacy for caregivers, and youth.